tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post490930141246087526..comments2023-06-21T04:36:51.316-07:00Comments on Word To Your Mutha: Reality Sometimes BitesMutha Maehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18071091659191752451noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-62554318975639404882007-11-10T09:25:00.000-07:002007-11-10T09:25:00.000-07:00every mom needs to read this. thank you for this. ...every mom needs to read this. thank you for this. i really really needed it.Katrinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02988381378209921841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-54474082296144536392007-11-09T20:10:00.000-07:002007-11-09T20:10:00.000-07:00Dead on the mark! Thank you! We do need to talk mo...Dead on the mark! Thank you! <BR/><BR/>We do need to talk more about it and we must learn to be less critical of the choices of others. Not only do we spend time thinking the grass is greener, we constantly question if we made the right decision...no matter which decision we made.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-6229910494262566242007-11-09T19:08:00.000-07:002007-11-09T19:08:00.000-07:00Everything you've said in this entry is absolutely...Everything you've said in this entry is absolutely true. Some days are tougher than others, and too many moms beat up on themselves and think they're doing a craptastic job or just muddling through. I wish there was less competition between parents (which I totally don't get) and more sharing of honest experience. Yeah, I'm a pollyanna.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-61604572563619236442007-11-09T07:20:00.000-07:002007-11-09T07:20:00.000-07:00A quote I've always liked is, "You can have it all...A quote I've always liked is, "You can have it all, just not all at once." :)Calliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15338414962004942866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-30776154845668845242007-11-09T06:22:00.000-07:002007-11-09T06:22:00.000-07:00Dianna you did not ramble. You and everyone else ...Dianna you did not ramble. You and everyone else summed it up so beautifully. We all struggle with our insecurities and our problems. We often don't talk about them with others. So sometimes we look at other people's lives and wonder why are WE the only ones with these problems? Everyone has them. We just don't want to let our guard down, for fear of people thinking we are weak or not good mothers.Mutha Maehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071091659191752451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-77221720590625139512007-11-09T00:20:00.000-07:002007-11-09T00:20:00.000-07:00You know how to make a pregnant woman cry! I agree...You know how to make a pregnant woman cry! I agree with everything you've written, beautifully written as well!<BR/><BR/>Before finding out this little boy is on his way, I was planning on studying next year because I just feel so redundant. I look at old highschool friends and see that I'm only one of the few who have had children. They're off exploring the world, working amazing jobs, doing new things. And I'm at home making sure an almost 4 year old doesn't crush the dog. I feel so embarrassed telling people I'm a SAHM. I know I shouldn't be but I am.<BR/><BR/>Now the study will be put off for another year and I don't know how I am with that just yet. I know that with a newborn I won't be in the right place to study but I want to. I so want to. I can't have it all and I need to realise that.<BR/><BR/>I am so sorry for the rambling comment. I'm a bit emotional today.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10927505487040590479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-37264170622078558222007-11-09T00:12:00.000-07:002007-11-09T00:12:00.000-07:00You are so right about all this. You have taken o...You are so right about all this. You have taken on a huge amount of work with two babies and there is no way you can be all for everyone. And you shouldn't. That's what makes kids resilient. They have to learn how to handle life's dissapointments. This is the best gift you can give them. Learn to let them take on what they can. Let them be independant as soon as they are capable of it. As a mom of older children I know that most of us feel guilty if we are not doing everything for our children. We do much more for them that they could do for themselves. (I was still dressing my oldest son at 6 for school, making their lunches until high school!) It is not in their best interest to baby them and not let them (or strongly encourage them) to take care of things that they can do. Three year olds are starting to be capable of doing more for themselves. Start out starting the zipper first and letting her zip up the rest of the way. Then have her lay the jacket on a table and practice zipping without wearing the jacket. (the accidents are probably related to all the changes in her life over the past few months) The babies are going to be tough for the first couple years. It gets so much easier. I promise!! Once they can play more together they will be easier. Hang in there, staying home is so worth it. You will have great kids. They will all be in school before you know it. The time just flies.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-4364105552406502522007-11-08T21:15:00.000-07:002007-11-08T21:15:00.000-07:00thank you so much for posting this. As a new mothe...thank you so much for posting this. As a new mother of a 6 weeks old daughter, I am sick to my stomach knowing that this coming Monday I must go back to work. After spending years on fertility treatments and now domestic adoption, I must work. I don't want to, sure I could quit and go bankrupt, but I will not do that to my newly formed family. Sure, we will be able to still go camping next year with my income on top of husbands, but I will miss those days when my daughter makes those first milestones in her life. I will so miss her when I leave her at the sitters. OUCH. Thank you for writing this. I accept it and move forward knowing I can't have it all.BekkiBoo aka tubelessstl https://www.blogger.com/profile/14630103746770027655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-55650358119813254232007-11-08T20:35:00.000-07:002007-11-08T20:35:00.000-07:00Loved the last post, loving this one even more! Th...Loved the last post, loving this one even more! Thank you! I read you everyday, and these words are why I come here. You've helped a new mom in this part of the world today... :o)))Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14158316253709422594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-39878871500680198262007-11-08T19:59:00.000-07:002007-11-08T19:59:00.000-07:00Wow--completely on the mark with this one (then ag...Wow--completely on the mark with this one (then again, you're usually always on the mark, period!). <BR/><BR/>It's definitely a tough ride, and there are many aspects I miss, but some I don't. It's a tough line to toe, and your post should be required reading for all first-time moms, before L&D. <BR/><BR/>Sorry yesterday was such a crap day, we moms all have 'em, don't we? Thankfully, the good days outnumber them.<BR/><BR/>(P.S. The comment from "dee" above is not me, in case you were wondering--the only thing I'm ever right about is how frustrated my children will get me.)Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14568577611703881392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-92164082268625279262007-11-08T19:57:00.000-07:002007-11-08T19:57:00.000-07:00Thank you all for posting. I don't get many reader...Thank you all for posting. I don't get many readers. So when someone stops to tell me something I said had an impact on them, it really means a lot to me. It makes me realize that keeping this blog is totally worth the effort. Thank you!Mutha Maehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18071091659191752451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-82444424939223433322007-11-08T18:29:00.000-07:002007-11-08T18:29:00.000-07:00I love it. I love this blog and I love reading you...I love it. I love this blog and I love reading your beautiful words. I needed this tonight sitting in an airport and wondering, sad about what I'm missing at home. Thank you.Tiffanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13137008541046206393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-43894473425321571202007-11-08T09:10:00.000-07:002007-11-08T09:10:00.000-07:00I needed this post today more than you will ever k...I needed this post today more than you will ever know!! Thank you! <BR/><BR/>They dont tell you all these things before you become a mom. <BR/><BR/>Ive been on several ends of the spectrum (married, young, SAHM / single, working mom/ married, working mom/ and now.. married, SAHM who cant go out of the house due to germs and stupid insurance companies) and have spent tons of time thinking the grass was greener.. <BR/><BR/>We do need to talk about this more, to get it out and let other mothers know they are not alone!Stephhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14213920790448432716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-81260180656799693392007-11-08T08:20:00.000-07:002007-11-08T08:20:00.000-07:00This should be required reading for all moms about...This should be required reading for all moms about to bring home a child. I know you get frustrated with your show and the lack of viewers, Mae. I don't think you realize how truly talented you are. I have a feeling TV is in your future. I'm usually right about these things. Just keep doing what you're doing, Mae. I have a feeling it will pay off. I'm always right about these things, so trust me!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7953184751839153380.post-5233963089679950762007-11-08T08:08:00.000-07:002007-11-08T08:08:00.000-07:00This is why you are such a wonderful writer. How ...This is why you are such a wonderful writer. How concise and succinct and poignant. Heartfelt. I've forwarded it to all the moms I know. Glad you're not feeling so bad today.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com